I tended to dress Small in the same way I dress myself; in whatever is most comfortable and practical. In Small terms, at least for the first few months, that meant a vest and a sleep suit. These garments have minimal bulk and few seams, thus providing comfortable lying, and they also allow easy access for nappy changes, once the poppers have been mastered.
My experience was that mothers seem to suffer from a need to dress their Smalls like mini adults. True, Small can look cute but it is all extremely expensive and it is both less comfortable and practical. For example, at the weekly weighing session (see Targets) I have been known to strip my Small, have him weighed and re-dress him before other parents have managed to undress their designer clad Small.
Whilst, in relation to income, clothes these days are not as expensive as they once were (thanks to the exploitation of the developing world) the cost still mounts up. It was frustrating that Small out grew his clothes every few months; weeks in the early days. As a result we were left with a huge bundle of clothes that had been worn twice and a lot that had never been worn at all. These could have been sold but nobody wanted second hand clothes for their precious new perfect Small. For the same reason, even giving them away proved difficult.
In the hopes of another Small we boxed the clothes up and put them in the loft. The important factor here, though, was that it had to be another Small of the same sex. There were few items that were unisex. Even the sleep suits were stereotypical blues. In hindsight we should have bought neutral colours and clothes that were as non-gender specific as possible.
You can imagine my joy when first Small 2 and then Small 3 was pronounced as a boy. By the end, maximum value had been squeezed out of most of the clothes, although I begrudged the wear left in some (but not enough to contemplate a Small 4).
Incidentally, the same non gender specific rule could apply to the nursery: it is all very well decorating it in pink and purple for a female Small but what happens when male Small 2 arrives? Either there is all the hassle and expense of redecorating or he ends up with an unexplained complex later in life.
Not so much a parenting guide full of advice, more the reality of parenting kids and being a house husband and father, written by a stay at home dad to three children.
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