The purpose of this book is to give a house husband’s perspective on raising Smalls. This may well be similar to a house wife’s perspective, I do not know, I am not a house wife, but I suspect there are differences.
What it is not intended to be, is a guide to best practice, although things may be learnt for good or ill. I am not medically or psychologically trained (although I might be psychologically drained). This book is merely my own observations, based on the experience of raising three Smalls, dealing mainly with the most arduous part of the process: from birth to the successful transition out of nappies and onto the toilet.
The main character in this book is Small. Small is a general term used for a child, be it baby, toddler or older. Small may be male or female but for the purposes of this book I have used the masculine. This is not meant to be in any way sexist, it is simply that I have three boys and no girls so if I chose to refer in the feminine I would invariably makes mistakes and start to refer in the masculine. I do not believe there are any material differences between the sexes as far as they relate to this book. But I could be wrong.
Whilst this book can be read from cover to cover it has been structured as an A-Z so that it can be easily dipped in and out of. As a result there is some degree of cross referencing where some of the subject headings overlap. For instance, doidens are referred to in various subject headings but only explained under ‘Doidens’. [It will make more sense once you start reading.]
I have battled with the tone of this book, most notably with my wife. She felt the first draft to be unduly harsh and critical of her perfect Smalls and that it did not reflect the true relationship of love and joy I have with them. Perhaps the main reason for this is that I am a man and she is a woman. I think it is well documented that men have difficulty in expressing their feelings and hide them behind witticisms that are often not appreciated by our female counterparts.
I therefore need to express at the beginning that whilst I would hope that women will read and enjoy this book, it has been written by a man for men. You may find some sections overly harsh and seemingly critical of Small. These are not intended as an attack on Small, they are merely a detached, clinical observation on what they are really like.
Not so much a parenting guide full of advice, more the reality of parenting kids and being a house husband and father, written by a stay at home dad to three children.
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