Small was the best negotiator in the world. His secret was, he never gave in, he just kept on. And on and on and on. Non-stop. Relentlessly demanding the same thing over and over, never letting up. Constantly repeating the same thing until I couldn’t stand it anymore and cracked. The reason he was able to do this was that he had no thought in his head other than the thing he wanted, nay, desperately needed. He was not constrained with thoughts of consequence or conscience. He did not have a demon sat on his shoulder nagging him that he really didn’t need this hassle. Nor the one on the other shoulder whispering that constant arguing with a Small must be causing some permanent damage to the Small/parent relationship.
More than anything though, Small did not have a million other things pressing on his attention and time. He could spend as long as he liked making his case and he did. I either had to learn to deal with the million other things with the constant background noise of Small or capitulate. Although capitulate might be the wrong word because it implies surrendering on terms. That might have been possible if I had caved at an early stage but if I had hung in there until breaking point I would normally flip 180 and surrender totally, conceding to all of Small’s demands utterly.
Not so much a parenting guide full of advice, more the reality of parenting kids and being a house husband and father, written by a stay at home dad to three children.
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